“The shadow isn’t a fearsome opponent but a worthy one. Powerful as it is, the power of wholeness is infinitely greater, and by a miracle of creation, it is within your grasp.” — Deepak Chopra
Our shadows which have manifested over a time through suppressed conditions can prevent us from the truly magnificent lives we know we were born to live. As we learn to deal with them we are aligning ourselves with same intimate power that exists in our beautiful natural world. At the center of our human struggle is the conflict between who we are and who we want to be.
In his book “The shadow effect” Deepak talks about duality being at the very core of our life experience. Life and death, good and evil, hope and resignation all coexist in every person. He goes on to say: “if we know courage, it is because we have also experienced fear.”
As adults, to return to the simple, honest and lovable beings we see in our children we must embrace our own shadows. We know we have our shadows at large when we are using “projection“. We use projection as a response to not wanting to acknowledge something in ourselves therefore we push it onto others.
We are projecting when we:
Are being defensive without being criticised.
Express extreme opinions about people that we don’t really know.
Use verbal formulas or stereotyping.
Believe we are misunderstood.
When we’ve asked for an opinion and the one we get isn’t what we expected and we get upset.
When we feel threatened by authority figures and when we finish other people’s sentences.
- Once you have diffused it, pay attention to your divine qualities:
There is nothing more natural than a human being that radiates simple unaffected humanity just as we see in our little ones. Embracing our shadow allows us to reclaim our power which helps us interact with others in a much more authentic way.
In the words of Deepak: “Stop projecting, detach, let go, be easy and radiate who you really are, then you have conquered your shadow.”
Look up to the light!